SENSATE FOCUS
(Mutual Pleasuring by touching)
Basis
Touch is a vital of personal human communication.
Tenderness, affection, solace, understanding, desire, warmth, comfort, any feeling can be conveyed to the partner by touching. Thus a fullness of sexual expression can be achieved.
No goal orientation
Elimination of pressure of performance and hence fear of failure.
Procedure: Both the partners are equally involved. The entire act should be slow, steady and full of love and understanding. There should be no time limit.
Step1
Both the partners take off their clothes
One partner (either one)gives experience of pleasurable touching to the other; massages or fondles the other
A soothing lotion is used for application
The Getting partner gives verbal/nonverbal directions about preferences for the location and the intensity of touching
The giving partner provides pleasure accordingly to the getting partner
The getting partner should inform the giving partner if anything is unpleasant, irritating or distracting
Both should think and feel sensuously
Avoid touching the breasts and genitals at this stage
The couple should Not proceed to intercourse
The entire procedure is reciprocated by the other partner
The procedure is repeated daily for 3-4 days.
Step 2
The previous procedure is repeated by both the partner
They proceed to the touching the breasts and genital
The couple should Not proceed to intercourse
Touching is reciprocated by the other partner
This is repeated daily for next 3- 4 days.
Step 3
Touching is done to each other by both in a simultaneous and mutual way.
Note: In Indian situation, Sensate Focus Exercise can be done by taking bath together and using oil for massage, provided there is availability of enough of water and privacy.
Posted by Dr. Ramesh Maheshwari, Wnho Clinic, 2014 sadashiv peth, Tilak road, Pune. Free to call for further information.
(Mutual Pleasuring by touching)
Basis
Touch is a vital of personal human communication.
Tenderness, affection, solace, understanding, desire, warmth, comfort, any feeling can be conveyed to the partner by touching. Thus a fullness of sexual expression can be achieved.
No goal orientation
Elimination of pressure of performance and hence fear of failure.
Procedure: Both the partners are equally involved. The entire act should be slow, steady and full of love and understanding. There should be no time limit.
Step1
Both the partners take off their clothes
One partner (either one)gives experience of pleasurable touching to the other; massages or fondles the other
A soothing lotion is used for application
The Getting partner gives verbal/nonverbal directions about preferences for the location and the intensity of touching
The giving partner provides pleasure accordingly to the getting partner
The getting partner should inform the giving partner if anything is unpleasant, irritating or distracting
Both should think and feel sensuously
Avoid touching the breasts and genitals at this stage
The couple should Not proceed to intercourse
The entire procedure is reciprocated by the other partner
The procedure is repeated daily for 3-4 days.
Step 2
The previous procedure is repeated by both the partner
They proceed to the touching the breasts and genital
The couple should Not proceed to intercourse
Touching is reciprocated by the other partner
This is repeated daily for next 3- 4 days.
Step 3
Touching is done to each other by both in a simultaneous and mutual way.
Note: In Indian situation, Sensate Focus Exercise can be done by taking bath together and using oil for massage, provided there is availability of enough of water and privacy.
Posted by Dr. Ramesh Maheshwari, Wnho Clinic, 2014 sadashiv peth, Tilak road, Pune. Free to call for further information.
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